I’m an old-fashioned XX and my husband is an old-fashioned XY, which is genetic code for female and male (exclusively). After more than 35 years of matrimony, it is obvious that, as our chromosomes are not changing, neither are our styles of communication. That doesn’t mean we can’t learn NEW methods of getting our needs/desires/ideas across to each other, however. Old dogs can still learn new tricks. One of mine is that, since Bob reads my blog, I know he’ll see this one….and laugh out loud. Well, I might laugh out loud; Bob will probably smile, maybe giggle. You know, certain things just hit us differently, since we are different….v-e-r-y different.
Come to think of it, I could even use this moment to remind him that our anniversary is NEXT WEEK.
For years earlier on in our wedded bliss, I wanted him to send me flowers. I think to him it just seemed like an impractical gift, especially given our precarious financial lifestyle at the time. So one day, imagine my reaction when he brought to me a real live red rose! I mean, a real LIVE rose, not cut…no, something I would need to take care of–on top of three small children in a tight married-student campus apartment, and a part time job as a nurse (night shift or weekends). And what did I know about taking care of roses??!?
As always, it’s the thought that counts.
I’m at a better place now, communicatively speaking I mean. How can I expect the poor man to have any idea what his companion is thinking without telling him? The Y in his X doesn’t exactly give him telepathic powers (thankfully). And, yes, he tends to have that typical “let’s fix it” mentality (again, quite practical) when I have a teary-eyed frustration or concern.
On that note, I received this from blogger Rusty Foerger at More Enigma Than Dogma.
(BWaH-hahahahaha!!!) Message received LOUD AND CLEAR.
Now, honestly, how many of us do this to God? Right, here’s how I’m feeling, just listen (which God is really quite good at), but then when He gives us the solution, we choose to keep the nail in place instead. DUH!
He does have specific strategies for our specific areas of concern. He is not capricious, and He is not ambiguous. And everything He does is out of love (even removing the nail, as painful as it may be at the time!)
“He renews my strength.
He guides me along right paths,
bringing honor to his name.”
And, oh yeah, Happy Anniversary, Honey! That is, almost. Y’know, next Thursday. Six days from now. August 18th, 1979. Flowers optional. (Pssst…make sure you read the tags.)
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