Modern parenting

IMG_20150103_172451138I have discerned that one of the buzz-words in behavioral training is “redirection”.  It’s the idea that instead of simply scolding and saying “NO”, which certainly has its place (I’m old school), it is important to add a positive element to the situation by redirecting the child’s focus to a more, shall we say, profitable activity. 

“NO, you must not put the Tinker Toy into the wall socket; how about I help you build a bridge?”

“NO, your baby brother would not prefer eating his applesauce over your ice cream made of Lego blocks.”

“NO, we must not cut the feet off your sister’s Barbie doll and glue her ankles onto the snow skis you just made; let’s fashion something else to fit her orthopedically challenged posture instead.”  (Hmmmm…wonder where THAT one came from??)

God, our perfectly loving Father, must also have something similar in mind.  Jesus has just finished His multiple appearances to His disciples (and many others) during His forty-day sojourn after the Resurrection.  Now it’s time to peel off so that the Holy Spirit could make His entrance. 

The last meeting with them is quite poignant.  In their parting conversation, the disciples had been asking Jesus if now was time the kingdom of Israel would be restored.  The short answer was (guess what) “NO”, with a new commission to go and make disciples.  Evidently, that wasn’t quite enough to get them moving…

“As they strained to see him rising into heaven, two white-robed men suddenly stood among them. ‘Men of Galilee,” they said, “why are you standing here staring into heaven? Jesus has been taken from you into heaven, but someday he will return from heaven in the same way you saw him go!’”

Their beloved Lord was now “gone”, but not really, and certainly not for good.  Nevertheless, here is a new threshold, unfamiliar territory, and right then it was easier to stare longingly into the past than to look expectantly toward the future.  A little redirection was in order.  These greenhorn apostles needed a kick in the pants, so to speak, to get moving. 

Sometimes, so do we…

Acts 1:10,11  Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

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Author: dawnlizjones

Tends toward TMI, so here's the short list: guitar and banjo (both of which have been much neglected as of late), bicycling (ibid), dogs, very black tea, and contemplating and commenting on deep philosophical thoughts about which I have had no academic or professional training. Oh, also reading, writing, but I shy away from arithmetic.

8 thoughts on “Modern parenting”

  1. I had a math teacher in high school who said, “We train animals, but we educate people.” I think some of that redirection idea comes from classical conditioning, reward and punishment, training rather than educating. On the other hand, I think the question the angels asked after the Lord’s ascension is a good example of educating rather than training. J.

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  2. In my earlier years, a word from a wise one, I was told parenting changes as children are maturing. Our guidance is more hands on early on, but as the child gets older, one teaches indirectly. This person explained you teach the principles you desire by allowing the child to have a role. For example, for younger children if one was riding in a car and you need the child to keep his or her hands inside the car and not out the window, one could say, keep your hands in the car. One is not teaching the undesirable action, but one is teaching the desired action. “Keep your hands in car.” On the other-hand, for a teen, one may discuss life issues and listen to the child’s response. Then, guide the child by interjecting the principles of right and wrong. By this way, the child does not feel one is imposing his or her rules, but one is allowing participation in administering them and the child will resist less to what is being said or expected. God does this for us. He lays down His principles to guide us, but He allows us to act as free-will agents to listen or read His words and become a participant. I see this as educating and redirection. Thanks for sharing your perspective of redirection in a matter to enlighten us and cause us to be challenged in our thinking.

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  3. Dawnliz, I’m off subject here but I must tell you something. One of the problems I had with my computer issues was lack of a proper cable. I ordered one. When a package came from Amazon yesterday, I set it aside to wait for Roger to come home and hook it up for me. So today that was about to happen. He opened the package, took out the bag. We remarked about what a pretty bag for Amazon to be using. As he held it, I questioned whether it was the cable. Imagine our surprise when it was a book! The Kraken! YOU are something else! My husband came in and I caught him up with our story. He scanned through it and said, “This is quite a book.” After a longer look, he said this fellow is very intelligent. This from my intelligent husband. My husband is not a person who reads books lightly. Until quite recently he read Human Anatomy, Microbiology, and such, for his before bedtime rest. I am looking forward to The Kraken for my night tonight. I am even understanding it. Seems to be a terrific allegory. I’m anxious. Thanks so much.

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    1. That’s in place of a get-well-soon card. Bob got his Ph.D. in molecular biology from Indiana U and teaches at our local college, so I think our boys would truly enjoy each other! Thanks for reading, I only sent that instead as you liked the one installment on my site. Blessing, and hope your cable comes SOON!!

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