When mom ain’t happy…..(you can finish the quote.)


Mother.  The word conjures up all kinds of thoughts and feelings.  For some, it’s Mrs. Walton in a big farmhouse sitting around a harvest table in the midst of the Great Depression.  (For others, it’s just plain depression…sorry about that.)  My mother-in-law wasn’t against apple pie, but hers usually came out of a box in the freezer.  I like to tell my girls (now grown) that if they ever doubt my love for them, just to stick a finger in their belly button, ‘cuz that’s where we were connected for so long, and even tho’ the umbilical cord needed to be cut, the cord to their mom’s heart never is.

AWWWwwwww….okay, may be corny, but true.  (They have told me that I was also not a conventional mother.)  However, as different as we all are in our parenting philosophies, for the most part moms want good things for their progeny.

And I’m sure that was the same for a little Jewish girl named Esther back in the Old Testament days.

Esther’s own mother had died.  I imagine that her mom was one of the original exiles from their homeland in Israel before it had been overrun by cruel enemy nations.  She probably had visions, like most mothers, of her daughter growing up to be a nice Jewish girl who marries a nice Jewish boy and has nice Jewish children.  Only, that was not to happen.  She was lovingly raised by her uncle, but rather than following the Mosaic Law of marrying that nice Jewish boy and raising those nice Jewish children, she ends up in a pagan king’s harem.  Assuredly not what her mom had had in mind.

 But God had a plan.

Dr. James Dobson wrote a book many years ago, the title of which pretty well sums it up: Parenting Isn’t for Cowards.  It’s a gross understatement to say that our children’s circumstances can make us unhappy.  Sometimes it is of their own choosing, sometimes not.  But even then, we can trust God to place them strategically.  The main thing is eternity, and God doesn’t give us children to populate Hell.  And, free will notwithstanding, He knows the best road for each one of us to take, weaving people through our lives along the way to Heaven.

Esther’s situation wasn’t kosher (pardon the pun), and yet God used her to save the nation of Israel from annihilation, thus preserving the generational line for the Messiah to arrive, and with it, our salvation.  Are your children not where you want them to be? Don’t despair, and continue that whole “pray without ceasing” (without giving up) and “in everything give thanks” thing.

Because God has a plan.

Author: dawnlizjones

Tends toward TMI, so here's the short list: guitar and banjo (both of which have been much neglected as of late), bicycling (ibid), dogs, very black tea, and contemplating and commenting on deep philosophical thoughts about which I have had no academic or professional training. Oh, also reading, writing, but I shy away from arithmetic.

16 thoughts on “When mom ain’t happy…..(you can finish the quote.)”

  1. Dawn, thanks for this.

    My children are pretty much committed non believers. To make it worse, everything they learned about defending their non belief they learned from me. So, every day I pray that they will understand that I was wrong for their entire lives and come to know Jesus also.

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  2. What a positive, glass half full, kind of thought. It is encouraging and brings hope for the future. I’m an “everything happens for a reason” kind of girl who believes that good can come out of bad even though we can’t see God’s whole cosmic plan for our lives all at one time.

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  3. I wrote a play about Esther and her journey. The thing that got me the most was that God is never mentioned in that book, but He’s everywhere in it. His hand is in our lives too. Thanks for your post today.

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  4. Your thought provoking Message Dawn brought back many memories to me, I will share a link so you will understand but yes what you shared is very True, although my own 7 Children are in Heaven never havering walked on this earth, I have cared for many Children over the years and I have known great Joy in doing so but also heartache too, I pray that the good seeds that were planted will bring good fruit even now and my mistakes will be forgotten by them.

    Childhood- http://freedomborn.wordpress.com/2011/09/27/the-early-years-a-little-lost-girl/

    For almost 30 years I was an Atheist because of being deceived as a young Teenager that I came from an Ape and Jesus my Best Friend and the Bible were just made up but Jesus rescued me and in time I came to True Heart repentance.

    I have also learnt a great Truth about our Belly buttons that I now share and yes sometimes with Atheists, their reactions have been mixed but they are left with doubts that I pray will lead them to consider God’s reality again, I know it did me although I had realized I was wrong and that God was indeed a reality but He also became a reality in my heart which cannot be shaken, through His Love I have now been sealed and I have His Hope Eternal and yes like Esther God’s planes not just for me but for all of us that He knows as His own are very, very good.

    Thank you again Dawn, you have a beautiful heart focus – Anne.

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      1. Thanks so much. Wow, I was just in NYC for the first time in September. I’ll bet upstate will is full of snow at this time of year…enjoy!!!!

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  5. Great post, Dawn!

    Children who resist God can certainly rip out your heart strings. My oldest is only 8, but she has a neurological disorder that makes her fight us with everything she’s got. It’s “the strong-willed child” times three. It’s a tough road, but we are fighting. The scariest prospect is that she will not improve and will reject God and us.

    I have friends with children who turned their back on God and it breaks their heart, but they keep fighting—especially on their knees in prayer. It’s important that they (and all of us) remember that even God, the perfect Father, has millions of children who resist and reject Him. A lot of children just want to go their own way. God be with you, Dawn!

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    1. Thanks for the encouragement. 1) God does not give us children to populate hell. 2) We serve a God of miracles 3) As you said, God–the perfect Father–had His first two kids mess up, royally. 4) I don’t have to actually be around to witness the final outcome. “The opera ain’t over ’til the fat lady sings.” And I haven’t heard any singing yet.

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